John R. "Rusty" McLen, LMFT

Counselor

How does it work?
How much does it cost?
How long does it take?

You may contact me by phone, text, or email. We will then work together to set up a time for your session. There will be a little paperwork for you to complete when you arrive. I will listen to your needs. If you just need to talk and get some things off your chest, we'll do that. If you need some tools to handle an ongoing situation, I'll provide tools that will make a positive difference for you. There are two things I want you to have when you leave my office the very first time. First, I want you to have a sense of hope that things can be better. Second, I want you to have a clear sense of something you can begin doing right away that will help. The things we discuss will remain confidential within the ethical guidelines of the law and professional standards.

I have a deep conviction about caring for those God cares about. I believe that if I take care of the people He loves, He will take care of me. My fee is $105 per hour, but I use a sliding scale when needed to help those who can't afford the full fee. Because of fees that credit card companies charge, I prefer cash or checks, but will take a credit card if necessary.

You probably know the answer. It depends. The determining factors include the severity of the problem, personal resources, and your motivation. I'll work at your pace as quickly or slowly as you are able. The issue isn't what works for someone else, it is what works for you.

What kind of problems do you see?

It has been a long time since I have been surprised. I have seen a lot of situations and yours probably isn't new. I  really enjoy helping parents with adolescent or adult children that are a problem. I also enjoy helping married folks with communication skills that restore confidence and intimacy. It is a privilege to help people through times of grief. I'm sure we can find the help you need that will be based on common sense and provide hope for you.

What causes problems in life?

Generally speaking, problems arise when those who have influence use their power in a bad way, or we make mistakes that lead to consequences, or we find ourselves in circumstances that overwhelm our ability to cope effectively. After the initial events, we begin coping with whatever we have to work with, often in desperation. Those attempts to cope often just provide symptom relief, but actually make the problems worse over time. As time goes on, shame, guilt, and frustration increase. If we don't know what to do, we just do the best we can to get by until someone shows us a better way that actually does help or we self destruct.

Am I crazy or weird?

I doubt it. I have seen crazy, but I doubt you fit the description. The good folks at Alcoholics Anonymous define insanity as doing the same old things expecting new results. That is what a lot of us do. Chances are you need a few tools to work with to manage the emotions you have so you can think more clearly and to manage the dynamics of your world. Things are never going to get better until we start doing the things that actually work. Let's get started.

Do you travel to provide counseling?

I do. Over the years, I have traveled out of town, out of state, and out of the country to meet with individuals, families, and organizations to address issues and needs. Sometimes it was to help with specific problems. This works well for those in high profile positions that are too busy to travel and need discreet, anonymous help on location. Other times, I have traveled to teach on topics including parenting tools and communication skills.

I have trained in a number of places. Life has taught me a lot I didn't want to learn. The most effective school I attended was probably one you have been to as well, the School of Hard Knocks. The good thing about this school is that they have campuses wherever you are that are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And anytime one needs a refresher course they are open for business. Relationships and my children have taught me a lot along the way. And just for kicks, I went to graduate school at Abilene Christian University in Abilene, Texas  for a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and am licensed by the State of Texas to provide those services.

Where were you trained?